Have you ever heard someone say, “You better watch your mouth!” ? You may not have known what the other person said, but you know it must have been rude or offensive to warrant such a threat, right? The fact is, we all need to be careful of what we say, not just to other people, but also to ourselves. Sometimes we can say the most unhealthy and unwholesome things to our self. It’s no wonder that it’s hard to stay happy and confident when we beat ourselves us with our own mouth.
So I have some good news and some bad news about this whole issue about watching what you say. I’ll start with the bad news…it’s REALLY hard to do!
But! Here’s the good news: If we learn to do it, we can completely set ourselves us for success in every area of our lives.
How do I know this? Well, let’s look at this from the practical perspective, then if you’ll bear with me, I’ll also show you what the Bible says about his very thing.
Watching What You Say – The Practical Perspective
What’s the first thing you do when something upsets you or makes you angry? For many of us, anger draws out negative reactions from swear words to sheer expressions frustration. What if instead of blurting out what we’re feeling, we pause and acknowledge the feeling, then instead of saying something negative, we say something more wholesome. If someone makes you to speak something you will only regret later, it’s perfectly acceptable to say, “I can’t talk about this right now.” And when things happen – and yes, things WILL happen – just say, “I wish this situation was better, but I’m going to deal with it the best way I can.”
The practical thing here is that when we stop for a moment and think about what we are saying, it calms us down. When we are calm, we make better decisions. When we think for a moment, we express ourselves like mature adults and our mind will allow us to think of a better way to deal with the situation at hand.
The lesson here is think first, then speak. I know it’s not easy, but mastering this will change your life.
Watching What You Say – The Biblical Perspective
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. (James 3: 9-10)
Wow. Our tongues can really get us into trouble – one minute we’re speaking life, the next we speak negativity and curses. I didn’t share the whole chapter of James, but in it, it also says the tongue is small yet it can be a fire, corrupting the whole body. YIKES! This one little thing affects everything in our lives. Next time you’re tempted to say something sarcastic or negative or doubtful, remember, it may be better to rethink that comment.
For truly I say to you, That whoever shall say to this mountain, Be you removed, and be you cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he said shall come to pass; he shall have whatever he said. (Mark 11:23)
And so the good news about watching what you say is you can tell your problems to go take a hike. Mark 11 has a good reminder for us – we can have whatever we say. That means if you want more good in your life – say it, believe it and expect things to be good!
Do you see the challenge in this? Everything we see around us is a direct reflection of what is coming out of the inside of us – including our words.
We are such powerful creatures, that we can create our own environment. This puts a huge responsibility on us, but at the same time gives us so much to look forward to and be excited about. I don’t know about you, but I’m going to make it my business to speak life into my situation – not death. I’m going to practice speaking truth – not darkness. I’m committed to creating a happy, abundant, loving and supportive environment for me and my family. We deserve the best – and you do too!
Share Your Thoughts…
How do you keep from saying things you shouldn’t? Tell me in the comments. We can all help each other speak life. I’m listening…