Does anyone remember Full House? Remember when Stephanie Tanner would disclaim: “How Rude!” whenever someone said something she thought was just not right? I know, I’m dating myself, but stick with me on this, we’re going somewhere, I promise. We’ve been talking about 5 things that can ruin your focus, energy and self confidence. These 5 things if left unattended, get us off track and cause us to focus on our problems, and before we know it, everything seems out of control.
What are these 5 Things?
(Click To Read Each of the Previous Posts in this Series)
- Watch What You Think
- Watch Who You Hang Around
- Watch What You’re Saying
- Watch What You’re Eating
- And today we wrap us this series with Watching What You Let Other People Say To You.
In particular, we are talking about how to deal with rude and offensive people. You know those people who make you forget it all and want to “go off?” Well, today’s post is for anyone who really wants to fight rude with rude, but you know it’s not right, so you’re willing to be the mature person and respond with grace. You see, there will be times when people aren’t being their best and they will say things that can be rude and offensive. When that happens, and it will happen, the key is to respond, not react. While we can’t control what comes out of another person’s mouth, we can control how we respond to it. And that’s what this post is all about: How to respond when people are rude, negative or downright offensive.
Watch This Video Clip And Learn The Things That Cause Offense And How To Handle It
Joyce Meyer: Don’t Take Offense
4 Ways To Deal With Offensive People from Joyce Meyer
- “Your value should not be determined by how someone else has treated you.” Take responsibility for your own actions and reactions. It’s hard to not be offended, but we can’t control what other people do. We can control our response. Your response is your responsibility. (Mark 11)
- Don’t Stay Angry. Your natural response to rudeness is anger, and it’s okay to get angry. The key is to not stay angry. In the video, Joyce put it this way, “You may not be able to do anything about how you feel, but you can do a lot about how you act.” (Eph 4)
- Learn to value your peace. Your response to every situation in life should be to walk in peace. We choose to stay in peace when we are determined to simply not let people offend us. (Eph 6)
- Know that God will take up your offense. He will take care of people who do you wrong and as Joyce says it, “He’s way better at it than you.” As hard as it can be in the moment, it’s important to remember this so we are not overcome by rude or offensive situations. (Ro 12)
I know it can be hard to overlook an offense. It’s hard, but not impossible. But if it makes you feel any better, read this article on Huffington Post: “11 Rude People Who Got Exactly What They Deserved” and smile. 🙂
Have you found ways to keep your temper under control when people are rude to you? What have you found that works? Please share. We can all use some sound advice in this area.