Hi Beautiful! I realize that not feeling comfortable in our own skin is a very real problem for both men and women. If you will allow me to speak life here for just a moment, I want to offer you some encouragement.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. BELIEVE THAT.
You may not fully agree with me right now, but here’s why I can be confident (pun intended) in saying this:
You were created by a master craftsman, and he only creates masterpieces ~Max Lucado
I may not know you personally, but I can say without a doubt, that not one person reading this is as “bad” as they think they are. Being confident in your body means taking responsibility for your physical wellbeing. It does not mean beating yourself up or thinking negatively about yourself. That is why confidence in mind is so important, because what we think about, we become. So if we think we’re out of shape or not pretty or too this or too that, then we become the very thing we were trying to change.
The key to confidence in body is to think pure, positive thoughts about our internal health and outward appearance. Once we learn how to see ourselves as the masterpiece that we truly are, self-care becomes less about impressing other people and more about taking personal responsibility for our own physical bodies, including our actions, activities and things we allow in our environment.
Wellbeing vs Losing Weight or Changing Your Appearance
Taking care of your body is not about losing weight or shaping up. Taking care of yourself includes taking care of your physical body, but also your emotional and spiritual well-being. It also means taking time to relax. We only have one body and it’s up to us to take care of it. The truth is when you take care of your whole being, you will start to feel better about yourself. The key is to focus on your whole body and overall wellbeing, not just the outward appearance, and that’s when you’ll have self-confidence like never before. For instance, instead of saying, “I need to lose weight,” rephrase it to something like “I’m excited to begin the journey of taking care of my body.” Now the focus is not on your “issue” with your weight, but rather you change the focus to a positive thought and you remind yourself this is a journey or a process towards a more holistic approach to self-care.
How You See Yourself Affects Your Confidence
Remember the Dove Real Beauty Sketches campaign we posted about here on the blog? In that campaign, Dove shared that only 4% of women in the world think of themselves as beautiful. The shocking results from Dove’s have gone viral, with more than 7 million views on Youtube, carrying this message: “You are more beautiful than you think.”
We shared the video on our blog: [Watch the video the post entitled, “What Is Beauty?”], and take a look at a few of the sketches here. The sketch on the left shows how the woman described herself, the sketch on the right is what the artist drew when a complete stranger described the woman.
Some of the sketches will move you to tears as you get the sense that we have no idea how beautiful we really are. The sketch artist revealed how when we think about ourselves, we tend to focus on the negative, not the positive. However when someone sees us, they are likely not even aware of what we consider our own flaws.
Wow! What have you been thinking about yourself that you can turn into a more positive thought? If the sketch artist asked you to describe yourself, what would you say? Before you answer that, don’t let your mind go to what you think is negative, but rather learn to see a more positive reflection of yourself. Appreciate all that you are and even the person that you aspire to be. How does the saying go? “We’re all a work in progress.” I think that’s true. I also know that we on the way to progress or change, there’s no need to put ourselves down.
Remind yourself: I am beautiful!